Some dogs are boisterous, outgoing and brave. Others are more timid and shy.
Just like people, each dog has their own personality. Sometimes these differences can be a matter of genetics (nature), or can be learned through their life experiences (nurture). Whether it’s nature, nurture, or a combination of both, you can help your timid or shy dog to become more confident.
Dogs who are skittish or fearful can often suffer from behavior problems such as separation anxiety, excessive barking, or chewing. (Click each highlighted topic for additional articles on that subject.)
If fears escalate enough, these pets can sometimes become fear biters… displaying aggressive behavior due to their perceived need for self defense.
In mild cases, skittish or timid dogs simply miss out on lots of the fun stuff in life! Instead of getting petted by dog loving visitors, they may choose to hide in a corner. Instead of enjoying jaunts to the park or tousling with other dogs, they may instead cower or avoid those situations.
If your dog is timid or shy, you can help your pet by using some obedience training, socialization, and confidence building exercises. By working on basic commands, you’ll have the opportunity to praise your dog for learning something new. This can be an excellent confidence builder.
Agility can also boost confidence. Learning to jump, climb or weave, (formerly ‘scary’ exercises), can really help skittish dogs to become more self-assured. You can either find an agility class to join, or create some simple activities of your own. Even something as basic as getting your pet to jump over a small piece of wood, which you gradually make higher, can make a big difference. Praise lavishly!
Last but not least, be sure never to pet your dog while afraid. For example, if you pet your dog while he’s shying away from a visitor, he’ll think you’re praising him for being scared. He will not feel soothed. Instead, gently tell him “No”, and help him to behave more naturally by doing some obedience commands, playing ball, or some other common activity. Praise your dog after he’s acting more relaxed, and encourage him to receive a treat or a pat from your friend.
Lori Verni-Fogarsi has been an author, speaker, small business consultant, and Certified Master Trainer for 18+ years. Her novel, “Momnesia,” (contemporary women’s fiction) has been designated a National Indie Excellence Book Awards Finalist, and her nonfiction book, “Everything You Need to Know About House Training Puppies and Adult Dogs,” has been widely acclaimed in its genre. To learn more, please visit www.LoriTheAuthor.com and join Lori on Facebook at www.facebook.com/LoriTheAuthor.
