It is often said that “hindsight is 20/20,” and I’m sure that every one of us have wished at one time or another that we’d had foresight instead. Giving a pet as a gift is one of those situations that may seem like a great idea at the time, but may ultimately bring regret. Following are some reasons why:
- If the pet is for your own household, every family member including children should be made aware of and agree to both the positive and negative aspects of pet ownership, and the responsibilities involved.
- Children may feel differently about puppies after meeting some in person. By involving all family members in the choosing, you might discover that a smaller breed or an older dog would be a better choice.
- Whether for your own household or someone else’s (grandmother, sister, etc.), the person will be best prepared for a pet by knowing in advance. Getting pet supplies, reading books, puppy-proofing and much more should be done before the new pet arrives.
- People often travel during holiday season, and it is inappropriate to get a new pet and then go out of town right away. Whether bringing the pet along or boarding it at a kennel, it’s best not to upset the new pet’s schedule during the first months. Also, young pets such as puppies and kittens may not be fully vaccinated yet, and therefore shouldn’t be exposed to various environments and likely won’t be accepted at boarding facilities.
- Your retired parent (or grandparent) who has been a loyal lover of a certain breed might prefer a different dog this time. As lifestyles change, so might their choice of pet.
- After being a dog trainer for 10+ years, there are two complaints I’ve commonly heard from recipients of pets as gifts. The first, most frequent grievance is, “I’d never have chosen this type of dog.” The second occurs when behavior problems are experienced. “If only I’d picked the dog myself.”
Still want to give a pet as a present? If you’re absolutely certain the person wants a pet, provide them with the means instead. Gift certificates for pet supplies or training, books about dogs, purchasing a nice leash and collar, bowl and brush are good ideas. You could even make a homemade gift certificate, promising to drive them to look at potential pets, pay the adoption fee and more.
There are tons more reasons not to give pets as gifts. But what it all comes down to is that it is always best for the new pet owner to take full accountability. A pet is a constant companion who can bring a lot of joy, but will be a big responsibility for an average of 15 years. Imagine if your spouse was assigned to you that way? Now that’s foresight!
Lori Verni-Fogarsi has been an author, speaker, small business consultant, and Certified Master Trainer for 18+ years. Her novel, “Momnesia,” (contemporary women’s fiction) has been designated a National Indie Excellence Book Awards Finalist, and her nonfiction book, “Everything You Need to Know About House Training Puppies and Adult Dogs,” has been widely acclaimed in its genre. To learn more, please visit www.LoriTheAuthor.com and join Lori on Facebook at www.facebook.com/LoriTheAuthor.
